Tips for starting over in the dating world


Whether you are emerging from a long-term relationship or deciding to leave your singledom behind you and make a debut into the dating world, it can be tricky to navigate the dating landscape in search of meaningful companionship or a life partner.

But there are some steps you can take to make sure that the foray into the dating scene is not too much of a minefield and that you really take full advantage of all the opportunities that exist to meet The One.

Say goodbye to your relationship baggage

First of all, you need to ensure you are fully healed and not carrying any baggage from previous broken relationships. This may mean taking time to embrace therapy or simply enjoying some self-care activities so that you do not make poor choices or repeat previous mistakes.

Understand your value

Practice regular self-care. Exploring and understanding who you are and what you want from dating will allow you to explore dating in a healthy and mature way. Remember, you are a person of value and worthy of love and being loved. Knowing and acknowledging your self-worth can be a real confidence boost and something that can be very attractive to potential partners.

Decide on your relationship expectations

Initially, it may be a good idea to be more open-minded about what you are looking for in a partner, rather than simply choosing someone similar to your previous partner. Understanding what you want from a relationship can help you form meaningful connections in a healthy and mature way. Make sure you communicate these when you are consistently dating someone new so that they understand the expectations. Being open will allow you both to form a trusting relationship and this will also allow you to form connections with like- minded people – and crucially, see any new liaison for what it is. If it’s not working, don’t force it. Instead walk away, ready to embrace the dating scene once again.

Know and respect your boundaries

When embarking on a new relationship, ensure that your boundaries and expectations are clear from the outset. Have a clear idea of what your intentions are for any new relationship – for instance, how soon you want to be exclusive or intimate with someone. Do not ever put yourself in any scenarios that could cause you to compromise your values system as ultimately this could lead you to regret your actions and behaviours and even cause damage to your reputation.

Explore New Relationship Avenues 

This may mean taking a step out of your comfort zone, which you may not have done for a while, especially if you have been in a long-term relationship. Consider attending social events, engaging a matchmaking agency who offer an introduction service and can even offer coaching to those who are out of practice! Remember, dating doesn’t have to be boring; there are so many different ways to meet new people and form connections – you just need to have the confidence to embrace who you are and put yourself out into the world. You have the opportunity to meet so many wonderful people who can make you happy and potentially be the love of your life, so why not enjoy it!

Pace yourself

Do not overextend yourself and feel pressurised into engaging with every single person who shows you interest as you may become disillusioned with those you meet. Take breaks when needed as this will help keep your spirits up. If you find the new world of dating to be too much, pause your activities and give yourself some much-needed self-care.

The most important thing before you re-enter the dating scene is to ensure you understand exactly what you want to achieve. Remember too there may be many people in similar situations to you, so always be open and honest about your intentions. Do not pressure yourself to find a relationship straight away; instead, take your time and enjoy the adventure!