Dating in the modern world can be a thrilling yet nerve-wracking experience. Have you got a date lined up via our personal matchmaking service? If so, remember that making a great first impression is the best way to get off on the right foot.
A significant part of that impression is your body language. It speaks volumes before you even utter a word. So, how do you ensure your body language screams confidence and not ‘I’d rather be home with my cat’? Read on for some top tips from a professional London Matchmaker.
Embrace the power of eye contact
Nothing says ‘I’m interested and confident’ more than solid eye contact. It’s the unspoken way of connecting with your date, showing you are engaged in the conversation. But remember, there’s a fine line between confident eye contact and a creepy stare. Aim for a soft gaze that occasionally breaks away.
Mind your posture
Slouching is the archenemy of confidence. Sitting or standing with a straight, open posture not only makes you appear more confident but also makes you feel it. Think of it as your superhero stance — minus the cape and tights.
Use open gestures
Closed-off body language, like crossed arms, can signal defensiveness or disinterest. Instead, use open, inviting gestures. When telling a story, use your hands to express yourself. It can make you seem more animated and engaging.
Lean in, but not too much
Leaning slightly towards your date shows interest, but invading their personal space? Not so much. Respect boundaries while subtly showing you are keen on what they’re saying. It’s like a physical nod of approval.
Smile – it’s contagious!
A genuine smile not only lights up your face but also sets a positive, relaxed tone for the date. It’s a universal sign of friendliness and approachability. Plus, smiling is contagious – it’s likely to make your date feel more at ease.
Slow down your movements
Rapid, jerky movements can be perceived as nervousness. Slow, deliberate movements exude a sense of calm and control. This doesn’t mean moving at a snail’s pace but rather avoiding fidgeting or any actions that suggest you’re not fully present.
Mirror your date (subtly)
Mirroring is a body language technique where you subtly mimic the gestures and posture of your date. It’s a non-verbal way of saying, ‘I’m in sync with you.’ Just don’t go overboard – you’re on a date, not in a mime class.
Mind the feet
Yes, even your feet are communicating! Pointing your feet towards your date is a non-verbal cue of interest. On the flip side, if your feet are pointed towards the exit, it might suggest you’re looking for an escape route.
Give a firm, confident handshake
If your date starts with a handshake, make it a good one. A firm (not bone-crushing) handshake can set a tone of confidence and equality from the get-go. It’s a small gesture that can have a big impact.
Balance speaking and listening
Confidence is not just about how you hold yourself; it’s also reflected in how you engage in conversation. Balance talking about yourself with listening attentively. It shows confidence in your own stories and respect for theirs.
Respect personal space, but close the gap
Navigating personal space on a date is essential. While it’s important to respect boundaries, closing the gap a little can foster a sense of closeness and warmth. The key is to find that sweet spot — close enough to foster intimacy, but not so close that it becomes uncomfortable.
This could mean choosing a cosy, but not cramped, seating arrangement, or casually standing a bit closer when examining something together.
Nod to show understanding
A simple nod can be a powerful tool in showing that you’re engaged and following the conversation. It’s a non-verbal cue that says, “I get you.”
This can be particularly effective when your date is sharing something personal or important, as it shows that you’re not just physically present, but also emotionally engaged.
Personalised matchmaking with Bond The Agency
At Bond the Agency, we can’t guarantee that our role as London matchmaker is a magic wand that instantly finds your soulmate, it’s a thoughtful process aimed at pairing you with someone who could be a great match.
Our matches are personal and thorough – we take the time to get to know you face-to-face, understanding your preferences, personality, and what you’re looking for in a partner. Just complete our application form, and let our expert matchmakers in London handle the rest.
If you’re still unsure, why not browse through our success stories? These real-life love stories from our clients might just inspire you to take that first step.